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How much money should you give for a bar or bat mitzvah? I get asked this one a lot, usually by an out-of-town guest coming to New Jersey for a bar or bat mitzvah, or a local parent whose child has just received their first invitation. It also comes up all the time on mitzvah-planning Facebook groups. If you are trying to determine an appropriate bar or bat mitzvah gift amount, there is no single correct answer. Your relationship with the guest of honor and family, your own b

If you're in the early stages of planning — or you're a guest trying to figure out your Saturday — here's the short answer: most bar and bat mitzvah services last approximately 90 minutes to three hours, although private services may be shorter and some traditional Shabbat morning services may run longer. Here's how that breaks down. Bar Mitzvah service length by denomination: Reform, Conservative, Orthodox Does denomination affect the length of a bar or bat mitzvah service?